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		<description><![CDATA[Weekly Sidra:&#160;Matot-Masei Torah Portion:&#160;Bamidbar/ Numbers 30:2-36:13 Haftorah:&#160;Yermiyahu / Jeremiah: 2:4-28; 4:1-4:2 &#8220;For My people have done a twofold wrong: They have forsaken Me, the Fount of living waters, And hewed them out cisterns, broken cisterns, Which cannot even hold water.&#8221; (Jeremiah 2:13) The human body is made up of over 70 per cent of water.&#160; We can go without food for a long time, but we could not survive too long without water. In our modern society we have no shortage of water.&#160; We can get it from the tap, the hose or the store.&#160; We also have a wide range of water from spring, bottled, flavoured and electrolyte waters. However, just as our physical body needs water we also need spiritual water to survive.&#160; Jeremiah was lamenting the fact that not only have we forsaken Hashem, but we have created our own broken vessels which cannot hold [...]]]></description>
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<p><strong>Weekly Sidra:&nbsp;</strong>Matot-Masei <br />
  <strong>Torah Portion:&nbsp;</strong>Bamidbar/ Numbers 30:2-36:13 <br />
<strong>Haftorah:&nbsp;</strong>Yermiyahu / Jeremiah: 2:4-28; 4:1-4:2</p>
<p>&ldquo;For My people have done a twofold  wrong: They have forsaken Me, the Fount of living waters, And hewed them out  cisterns, broken cisterns, Which cannot even hold water.&rdquo; (Jeremiah 2:13)</p>
<p>The human body is made up of over 70 per cent of  water.&nbsp; We can go without food for a long  time, but we could not survive too long without water.</p>
<p>In our modern society we have no shortage of water.&nbsp; We can get it from the tap, the hose or the  store.&nbsp; We also have a wide range of  water from spring, bottled, flavoured and electrolyte waters.</p>
<p>However, just as our physical body needs water we also  need spiritual water to survive.&nbsp; Jeremiah  was lamenting the fact that not only have we forsaken Hashem, but we have  created our own broken vessels which cannot hold water.</p>
<p>There is a saying that all roads lead to Rome meaning  that there are many paths to spiritual enlightenment.&nbsp; However, that is not the case.&nbsp; We know that there is only one Rolex watch or  Rolls Royce car, Versace or I Phone.&nbsp; So  why would anyone settle for a cheap knockoff?</p>
<p>What our hearts crave is at root a  yearning for a relationship with the God who created us, the God who gives  purpose and meaning to life, the God who himself longs to be part of our lives,  especially at those times when human love deserts and human kindness fails.</p>
<p>Yeshua knew physical thirst, and he  saw around him the debilitating effects of spiritual dryness. He borrowed and  personalized Jeremiah&#8217;s water metaphor this way, in an impromptu conversation  with a woman he found taking water from a well:</p>
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<p>Anyone who drinks  this water will soon become thirsty again. But those who drink the water I give  will never be thirsty again. It becomes a fresh, bubbling spring within them,  giving them eternal life. &mdash; Yochanan / John 4:13, 14, NLT</p>
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<p>But just like the hotly competitive  beverage market, we see today a thriving spiritual marketplace full of  alternative gods and competing revelations, all claiming to satisfy our parched  spirits.</p>
<p>Anyone who has ever hiked in the  mountains knows there are many fissures in the rock and many springs bubbling  from the deep. Some flow for only a short distance before disappearing back  underground, others become steady and dependable streams supporting both  ancient oaks and thirsty wildlife.</p>
<p>In Yeshua alone is found that  limitless spring of purest, living water that will satisfy our deepest thirst.&nbsp; He is the Messiah who springs forth with  HaShem&rsquo;s living waters.</p>
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		<description><![CDATA[Weekly Sidra:&#160;Matot (Tribes) Torah Portion:&#160;Bamidbar/ Numbers 30:2-32:42 Haftorah:&#160;Yermiyahu / Jeremiah 1:1-2:3 Bamidbar 30:3(2)&#160;&#160;If a man vows a vow to Hashem or swears an oath to prohibit himself, he shall not violate all that has come from his mouth he shall do. The laws of vows and oaths are extensive and take up many volumes of books to explain properly.&#160; Within this chapter of the Torah the sages and chachamin have rendered the halacha of taking vows (&#1504;&#1491;&#1512;&#1497;&#1501; &#160;nedarim)[1]&#160;and oaths (&#1513;&#1489;&#1493;&#1506;&#1493;&#1514; &#160;sh&#8217;vuot).&#160; It is no simple task to make a vow or swear an oath to prohibit or take upon oneself a certain matter.&#160; One would think that what comes out of our mouth is what is binding upon the person who said it, but Hashem in the next verse gives us laws about hearing what was said, restraining from annulling, the power to annul a vow from a [...]]]></description>
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<p><strong>Weekly Sidra:&nbsp;</strong>Matot (Tribes)<br />
  <strong>Torah Portion:&nbsp;</strong>Bamidbar/ Numbers 30:2-32:42<br />
<strong>Haftorah:&nbsp;</strong>Yermiyahu / Jeremiah 1:1-2:3</p>
<p><strong>Bamidbar 30:3(2)&nbsp;</strong><strong>&nbsp;If a man vows a vow to Hashem or swears an oath to prohibit himself, he shall not violate all that has come from his mouth he shall do.</strong></p>
<p>The laws of vows and oaths are extensive and take up many volumes of books to explain properly.&nbsp; Within this chapter of the Torah the sages and chachamin have rendered the halacha of taking vows (&#1504;&#1491;&#1512;&#1497;&#1501;  &nbsp;<em>nedarim</em>)<a  href="#_ftn1" name="_ftnref1" title="" id="_ftnref1">[1]</a>&nbsp;and oaths (&#1513;&#1489;&#1493;&#1506;&#1493;&#1514;  &nbsp;<em>sh&rsquo;vuot</em>).&nbsp; It is no simple task to make a vow or swear an oath to prohibit or take upon oneself a certain matter.&nbsp; One would think that what comes out of our mouth is what is binding upon the person who said it, but Hashem in the next verse gives us laws about hearing what was said, restraining from annulling, the power to annul a vow from a person who has authority over them, etc.&nbsp; It is a complicated matter of what comes from the mouth because it can be interpreted different by the speaker than from someone who hears it and depending on the nature of what was said, it can be annulled or it can stand.&nbsp;</p>
<p>Below I have compiled a list of halacha that pertains to vows and oaths<a  href="#_ftn2" name="_ftnref2" title="" id="_ftnref2">[2]</a>.&nbsp; It is NOT meant be a definitive means of determining whether a person is under a vow or if it needs to annulled, but to give a quick reference of basic matters of nedarim.&nbsp; It is to show the reader that it is not as simple as one thinks to bind a vow or be loosed from a vow and that a person with the correct understanding of Torah and halacha should be consulted in these matters before a person enters into a vow.&nbsp; It is preferable NOT to vow or swear according to Maran Yeshua and that is also the opinion of the our Sages and Rishonim.</p>
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<p><em>But I say to you, Do not take an oath at all, either by heaven, for it is the throne of God, or by the earth, for it is his footstool, or by Jerusalem, for it is the city of the great King. And do not take an oath by your head, for you cannot make one hair white or black. Let what you say be simply &#8216;Yes&#8217; or &#8216;No&#8217;; anything more than this comes from evil. (Mat 5:34-37 ESV)</em></p>
<p>One should not take a Neder, lest he transgress it.(Rif and Rosh 1:8 on Nederim 9a)</p>
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<p><em>A Kosher person should not vow or swear about anything. If one has money to give to Aniyim or redeem captives or such matters, he should give it immediately. If not, he should be quiet until he attains the money. If people are pledging Tzedakah and he needs to pledge with them, he should say &#8216;Bli Neder.&#8217; (Rosh ibid)</em> </p>
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<p><em>You should distance yourself from taking an oath.&nbsp; (Kitzur shulchan Aruch 67:2)</em></p>
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<li>It must be expressed in a prescribed way</li>
<li>&nbsp; If&nbsp; something is normally issur (such as vowing not to eat lobster or&nbsp;<em>hekdesh<a  href="#_ftn3" name="_ftnref3" title="" id="_ftnref3"><strong>[3]</strong></a></em>then the vow is not in force and need not be nullified (yoreh deah 205)&nbsp;&nbsp;</li>
</ul>
<ul>
<li>  This is only for a person who understands Torah well</li>
<li>&nbsp;If an unlearned person vows the above it stands (needs to be annulled by a Tamid Chakcham or a panel of 3) (Nedarim 3:1)</li>
<li>&nbsp; If&nbsp; a man forbids something that cannot be made in actuality such as making Jewish wine &ldquo;<em>Nesech</em>&rdquo; or Jewish bread like Kuthite bread, it doesn&rsquo;t stand unless it is said if certain stipulations are made.&nbsp;</li>
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<li> &ldquo;If I do such and such, then my wine/bread is like Yayin Nesech<a  href="#_ftn4" name="_ftnref4" title="" id="_ftnref4">[4]</a>&nbsp;or a Kuthite loaf.<a  href="#_ftn5" name="_ftnref5" title="" id="_ftnref5">[5]</a>&rdquo; it stands and they are forbidden. (Yoreh Deah 205;2)</li>
<ul>
<li>&nbsp; There is a difference between this neder and a k&rsquo;nas (self imposed penalty).&nbsp;</li>
</ul>
<li>&nbsp;&nbsp;One must express the neder clearly.&nbsp;</li>
<ul>
<li> It must be verbalized and not just in the mind and both mind and mouth must be in agreement.(Siftey Kohen 210:3)</li>
</ul>
<li>  A vow/oath made in a dream must be nullified by a panel of 10 learned men and must regret the vow made in the dream. (Yoreh Deah 210:2)</li>
<ul>
<li>  If 10 are not available then 3 may perform the nullification (Yoreh Deah 210:2 in Hagah)</li>
<li>  If the vow was nullified in the dream on must still get in nullified once awake sense dreams have some nonsense in them. (Siftey Kohen 210:4)</li>
<li>&nbsp; If a woman made a vow in a dream, she too, needs to get 10 people to nullify the vow. (ibid 210:5)</li>
</ul>
<li> If one made a vow and IMMEDIATELY regretted it.&nbsp; Within the span of time it takes to say &ldquo;Peace unto you Master.&rdquo; The neder is void.&nbsp; Otherwise it stands. (YD 210:3; SK 210:6)</li>
<li> If the vow included a condition, the vow does not come into play until the condition is met.</li>
<ul>
<li>  The condition must be clearly verbalized before making the vow.&nbsp; If it is not verbalized the vow stands immediately. (YD 211; turey zahav 211:2)</li>
</ul>
<li>&nbsp;&nbsp; If the words &ldquo;konam,&rdquo; &lsquo;konach,&rdquo; or &ldquo;konas&rdquo; are used in the matter of Hekdesh instead of the word &ldquo;korban&rdquo; it is treated as a vow. (This is one reason for Kol Nidre service on Yom Kippur.<a  href="#_ftn6" name="_ftnref6" title="" id="_ftnref6">[6]</a>&nbsp;(Nedarim 10a; Yad Nedarim 1&rsquo; YD 205:2)</li>
<li>&nbsp; If a man states, &ldquo;All vows made until a certain date and time shall be null and void,&rdquo; and he makes a makes one while remembering this statement, the vow stands and this is only in regard to his own vow.</li>
<ul>
<li>&nbsp; If he did not recall this statement, the vow is voided by the statement.(YD 211:4 in hagah.)</li>
</ul>
<li> If a condition is stated in a vow that will nullify the vow and both are verbalized and the condition is met</li>
<ul>
<li>  However if he made the vow and had an idea that someone else may understand it different the condition cannot be used to nullify</li>
</ul>
<li>&nbsp; A vow can only be made on something tangible and not a mere action according to Torah Law</li>
<ul>
<li>  The Sages rule one needs a&nbsp;<em>heter (</em>loophole)<a  href="#_ftn7" name="_ftnref7" title="" id="_ftnref7">[7]</a>&nbsp;even when the vow is something intangible. (YD 213:1)</li>
</ul>
<li> If one vows to study a certain text of Torah learning, give charity, or perform a certain mitzvah the vow stands. (YD&nbsp; 213:2 in hagah)</li>
<li> If one takes upon a custom of denying themselves something that is usually permitted, such as fasting before Rosh HaShannah or eating only Chalav Israel and Pat Israel between Rosh HaShannah and Yom Kippur, one needs a heter to discontinue the action.</li>
<ul>
<li>  One needs to have in mind and verbalize this is not a neder and it is only for a time to deny themselves a permitted thing.</li>
<li>  If one is under the impression that the thing a person is denying themselves is forbidden(issur) and finds out it truly is permitted, it is a mistaken neder and no heter is needed (some say that a panel of 3 is needed even though it was a mistake). (YD 214:1)</li>
</ul>
<li>&nbsp; If a good habit is begun and the intention is to continue in it, the action is considered a neder.&nbsp;</li>
<ul>
<li>  If there is a change of &nbsp;mind, a heter is needed to discontinue the action.</li>
</ul>
<li> If a neder is made to not perform a mitzvah, (i.e, sit in a succah or perform the lulav ceremony) the neder stands.</li>
<ul>
<li>  The person is to get lashes for such a neder and has to perform the mitzvah. (YD 215:1)</li>
<li>  An oath not to perform a mitzvah is valid and stands.(YD 239; Siftey Kohen 215:5)&nbsp; This in regards to a Torah mitzvah and not a rabbinic mitzvah which will need to be absolved. (see Rabbeniu Bachya for more detail on this ruling of neder vs. sh&#8217;vuah)</li>
</ul>
<p>Note that not all of the vows CAN be nullified and one should not seek to annul it unless the need is great.<a  href="#_ftn8" name="_ftnref8" title="" id="_ftnref8">[8]</a>&nbsp;When it is said that a&nbsp;<em>heter</em>&nbsp;is needed or a vow needs to be nullified does not mean it will be.&nbsp; One will need to go to a qualified teacher (preferably ones Rebbe or teacher if available) or one of greater stature and learning.&nbsp; This is because they will understand and be able to work within the Torah to find an opening (<em>patach</em>) with your reasoning or actions for taking the vow in the first place.&nbsp; However, when it is required to go before a panel of&nbsp; three it is because they need to agree on the reasoning and the patach that they may find.&nbsp; Usually a Talmid Chacham (Torah Scholar) is sufficient to go to singularly to have a vow nullified.&nbsp; However, it should be noted that it is not a light thing to say a neder/vow.&nbsp; The Torah states,&nbsp;<em>&ldquo;You shall not take the name of your G-d in vain,&rdquo;<a  href="#_ftn9" name="_ftnref9" title="" id="_ftnref9"><strong>[9]</strong></a></em>is interpreted to say that you shall not take His Name in a vain (oath/vow).<a  href="#_ftn10" name="_ftnref10" title="" id="_ftnref10">[10]</a>&nbsp;<em>For he will not forgive it</em>.&nbsp; It also states,&nbsp;<em>&ldquo;Your vows shall you perform</em>.&rdquo;&nbsp; The Master severely chastised His generation for taking vain oaths and vows and attributing it to not understanding Hashem or the Torah in many ways.&nbsp; Many were vowing on objects without remembering that it was Hashem Who was above all those objects.&nbsp; And David said,&nbsp;<em>&ldquo;I will perform my vow in the congregation of my people.&rdquo;<a  href="#_ftn11" name="_ftnref11" title="" id="_ftnref11"><strong>[11]</strong></a></em></p>
<p>Our words hold power of life and death, which means we absolve or condemn ourselves before Hashem and man.<a  href="#_ftn12" name="_ftnref12" title="" id="_ftnref12">[12]</a>&nbsp;We should take note that silence is better than speech when it comes to this matter for who wants to stand before any judge whether Divine or otherwise and explain why foolishness was spoken.&nbsp; Ya&rsquo;akov HaTzadik, of blessed memory, instructed us of why this is so.&nbsp; He explains,</p>
<blockquote>
<p><em>If anyone thinks he is religious and does not bridle his tongue but deceives his heart, this person&#8217;s religion is worthless.(1:26)</em></p>
<p><em>For we all stumble in many ways. And if anyone does not stumble in what he says, he is a perfect man, able also to bridle his whole body. If we put bits into the mouths of horses so that they obey us, we guide their whole bodies as well. Look at the ships also: though they are so large and are driven by strong winds, they are guided by a very small rudder wherever the will of the pilot directs. So also the tongue is a small member, yet it boasts of great things. How great a forest is set ablaze by such a small fire! (3:1-5)ESV</em></p>
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<p>In the matter of oaths and vows we should take the advice of the sages and not promise things, but use the words&nbsp;<em>&ldquo;b&rsquo;li neder&rdquo;(</em>without a vow) or just&nbsp;<em>&ldquo;bezrat Hashem&rdquo;</em>&nbsp;(with the help of G-d) that we will perform or not perform an act.&nbsp; Today, in our lowered state of humanity, we should take note of this as not to fall from carelessness or emotional speech.&nbsp; We should temper our speech and be soft spoken and well thought out and not be one who speaks quickly without thought of the consequence of what may or may not come out of our mouths.&nbsp; With G-d&rsquo;s help, we can accomplish these things, be modest in our ways, and hasten the coming of Moshiach Yeshua.&nbsp;</p>
<p>Shabbat Shalom
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<p><a  href="#_ftnref1" name="_ftn1" title="" id="_ftn1">[1]</a>&nbsp;Neder(&#1504;&#1491;&#1512; <strong> ) :&nbsp;</strong>Imposing a prohibition upon oneself which is usually permitted to enjoy or benefit from.</p>
<p><a  href="#_ftnref2" name="_ftn2" title="" id="_ftn2">[2]</a>&nbsp;I used Yalkut Meam Loez (R. Yitzchok Magriso) as a basis for my list.&nbsp; The source in parenthese are mainly the sources listed in the book.&nbsp; Yalkut Meam Loez, Moznaim Publishing Corporation copyright &copy;1991</p>
<p><a  href="#_ftnref3" name="_ftn3" title="" id="_ftn3">[3]</a>&nbsp;Hekdesh (&#1492;&#1462;&#1511;&#1456;&#1491;&#1461;&#1513;&#1473;  ), consecrated property, property dedicated to the needs of the Temple; in post-talmudic times the term&nbsp;<em>hekdesh</em>&nbsp;without qualification (<em>setam hekdesh</em>) came to mean property set aside for tzedakah or to fulfill any other&nbsp;<em>mitzvah</em>.</p>
<p><a  href="#_ftnref4" name="_ftn4" title="" id="_ftn4">[4]</a>&nbsp;Forbidden wine of non-Jews</p>
<p><a  href="#_ftnref5" name="_ftn5" title="" id="_ftn5">[5]</a>&nbsp;Kuthite bread was also forbidden (see Kehati Mishnah Shabbat 1:4) Also see my article on this&nbsp;<a  href="http://thejewishcarpenter613.blogspot.com/2011/04/parasha-acharei.html" target="_blank">http://thejewishcarpenter613.blogspot.com/2011/04/parasha-acharei.html</a></p>
<p><a  href="#_ftnref6" name="_ftn6" title="" id="_ftn6">[6]</a>&nbsp;Yad Nedarim chpt 1, Yoreh De&rsquo;ah 205:2</p>
<p><a  href="#_ftnref7" name="_ftn7" title="" id="_ftn7">[7]</a>&nbsp;Heter&nbsp;&#1492;&#1497;&#1514;&#1512;  &nbsp;permission from a Torah scholar or panel of&nbsp; 3/10 men to annul the vow.</p>
<p><a  href="#_ftnref8" name="_ftn8" title="" id="_ftn8">[8]</a>&nbsp;Kitzur Shulchan Aruch 67:2,3</p>
<p><a  href="#_ftnref9" name="_ftn9" title="" id="_ftn9">[9]</a>&nbsp;Shemot 20:7</p>
<p><a  href="#_ftnref10" name="_ftn10" title="" id="_ftn10">[10]</a>&nbsp;See Rashi.&nbsp; Swear something foolishly that is not true.</p>
<p><a  href="#_ftnref11" name="_ftn11" title="" id="_ftn11">[11]</a>&nbsp;Ps. 116:14</p>
<p><a  href="#_ftnref12" name="_ftn12" title="" id="_ftn12">[12]</a>&nbsp;Matthew 12:36</p>
<p> Writen by&nbsp;<a  href="http://thejewishcarpenter613.blogspot.com/" target="_blank">The Jewish Carpenter</a>&nbsp;(&#1491;&#1493;&#1491; &#1489;&#1503; &#1490;&#1489;&#1512;&#1497;&#1488;&#1500;) </p>
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		<description><![CDATA[The year is 2448 and the 40 years in the desert are drawing to a close. Miriam and Aharon have passed on, and Yehoshua has been appointed as the successor. In these last two portions of Sefer Bamidbar, Matot &#8211; Masei, HaShem begins to wrap things up. Pay attention to the laws selected to end the 4th Sefer. Parshat Matot is always read during the three weeks of mourning over the destruction of the Holy Temple, an event which plugged the Jewish people into a physical and spiritual exile from which they have not yet recovered. It is not surprising therefore, that the name of the Parsha contains a message of inspiration which helps us overcome the adversities of exile. Matot, Mattot, Mattoth, or Matos (&#1502;&#1496;&#1493;&#1514; &#8212; Hebrew for &#8220;tribes,&#8221; the fifth word, and the first distinctive word, in the parshah) is the 42nd weekly Torah portion (parshah) [...]]]></description>
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<p>The year   is 2448 and the 40 years in the desert are drawing to a close.  Miriam and Aharon have passed on, and Yehoshua has been appointed as the  successor.  In these last two portions of Sefer Bamidbar, Matot &#8211; Masei,  HaShem begins to wrap things up.  Pay attention to the laws selected to   end  the 4th Sefer. </p>
<p>Parshat Matot is always read during the three weeks of mourning over the destruction of the Holy Temple, an event which plugged the Jewish people into a physical and spiritual exile from which they have not yet recovered. It is not surprising therefore, that the name of the Parsha contains a message of inspiration which helps us overcome the adversities of exile.</p>
<p>Matot, Mattot, Mattoth, or Matos (&#1502;&#1496;&#1493;&#1514; &mdash; Hebrew for &ldquo;tribes,&rdquo; the fifth word, and the first distinctive word, in the parshah) is the 42nd weekly Torah portion (parshah) in the annual Jewish cycle of Torah reading and the ninth in the book of Numbers. It constitutes Numbers 30:2&ndash;32:42. Jews  in the Diaspora generally read it in July or early August. The name of the forty-second reading from the Torah is <em>Mattot</em> (&#1502;&#1496;&#1493;&#1514;), which means &ldquo;tribes.&rdquo; The name is derived from the words of   Numbers 30:1, which says, &ldquo;Then Moses spoke to the heads of the tribes   of the sons of Israel.&rdquo; Numbers 30 discusses the laws of vows and oaths.   Numbers 31 tells the story of Israel&rsquo;s war with Midian. Numbers 32   relates the story of how the Reubenites, the Gadites and the half-tribe   of Mannaseh came to inherit the land east of the Jordan River. Except in   biblical calendar leap years, <em>Mattot</em> is read together with the   subsequent Torah portion, <em>Massei</em>, on the same Sabbath.</p>
<p>Masei, Mas&rsquo;ei, or Masse (&#1502;&#1505;&#1506;&#1497; &mdash; Hebrew for &ldquo;journeys,&rdquo; the second word, and the first distinctive word, in the parshah) is the 43rd weekly Torah portion (parshah) in the annual Jewish cycle of Torah reading and the 10th and last in the book of Numbers. It constitutes Numbers 33:1&ndash;36:13. Jews  in the Diaspora generally read it in July or August. The last reading from the book of Numbers is called <em>Massei</em> (&#1502;&#1505;&#1506;&#1497;), a word that means &ldquo;journeys.&rdquo; It comes from the first verse of   the reading, which begins with the words &ldquo;These are the journeys of the   sons of Israel&rdquo; (Numbers 33:1). Massei is the end of the continuous   narrative of Torah that began in Genesis with the creation of the   universe. The narrative does not resume until the end of Deuteronomy,   when Moses dies.</p>
<p> The final reading in Numbers settles several last-minute details. In it   we find a list of the encampments from Egypt to the plains of Moab. We   also find instructions for apportioning the land, as well as the   specifics regarding the borders of the land. While explaining the land   and its borders, Moses introduces the laws of the cities of refuge and   more inheritance laws. In most years, synagogues read <em>Massei</em> together with the preceding portion, <em>Mattot</em>, which accounts for   the brevity of this portion&rsquo;s commentary.</p>
<p>Note: On the Shabbat the Torah Reading is divided into 7 sections. Each section is called an Aliya [literally: Go up] since for each Aliya, one person &ldquo;goes up&rdquo; to make a bracha [blessing] on the Torah Reading. Here are this week`s aliyot: </p>
<p><strong>1st   Aliya:</strong> The laws of personal vows are detailed and Moshe is   instructed to  &quot;take revenge&quot; against Midian.  In the battle, both Balak and Bilaam are  killed. </p>
<p><strong>2nd   Aliya:</strong> In the aftermath of the war, Moshe instructs the   soldiers regarding  the applicable laws of Tumah &#8211; impurity, and deals with the division of   the  booty between the soldiers, community, and the Mishkan. </p>
<p>In appreciation for the fact   that not a single soldier was lost in battle,  the Generals and Captains donate their personal percentage of the   captured  gold to the Mishkan.  The total weight of the donated gold weighed    837.5  lbs.! (Areyeh Kaplan) </p>
<p><strong>3rd   &amp; 4th Aliyot:</strong> Moshe is approached by the tribes of   Reuven, Gad, and 1/2 of  Menashe to acquire the Trans-Jordan territories captured from Sichon and   Og.  Moshe first treats their petition with suspicion; however, an agreement   is  reached between the 2 1/2 tribes and Moshe: Trans-Jordan in exchange for  manning the front lines in the campaign to take Eretz Yisrael. </p>
<p><strong>5th   Aliya:</strong> Moshe instructs the Bnai Yisroel to clear out the   Land from all  negative influences, and sets the Biblical boundaries of the Land. </p>
<p><strong>6th   Aliya:</strong> New leaders are appointed to oversee the division of   the Land, and  the 48 Levitical cities, including the 6 Cites of Refuge, are mandated. </p>
<p><strong>7th   Aliya:</strong> The laws regarding the inadvertent murderer are   detailed, and the  prohibition against marrying outside one&#8217;s tribe is established. This  prohibition was only for the generation that occupied the Land. </p>
<p>This aliyah completes the book of Bamidbar. In a synagogue, the congregation stands during the reading of the last part of the aliyah, and when the Torah reader reaches the end of the aliyah the congregation recites: &quot;Chazak Chazak V&#8217;Nischazek&quot; &#8212; as we do at the end of each one of the five Books of the Torah. Next week we begin reading the book of Devarim.</p>
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		<description><![CDATA[Weekly Sidra:&#160;Matot (Tribes) Torah Portion:&#160;Bamidbar/ Numbers 30:2-32:42 Haftorah:&#160;Yermiyahu / Jeremiah 1:1-2:3 The word of the HaShem came to me: Before I created you in the womb, I selected you; Before you were born, I consecrated you; I appointed you a prophet concerning the nations. (Jeremiah 1:4-5) This week we read Parashat Matot (Tribes).&#160; This reading is usually paired with Masei (Journeys), but not this year.&#160; The Torah portion of Matot deals with the importance of keeping our word before both God and man.&#160; We must be ready to keep our promises and do what we say we will do. The Haftarah portion in Yerimiyahu also confirms this principle.&#160; HaShem tells Yeremiyahu that he has been selected and consecrated to be a prophet to the nations.&#160; This was role was bestowed on him even prior to his birth.&#160; The same can be said of each and every one of [...]]]></description>
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<p><strong>Weekly Sidra:&nbsp;</strong>Matot (Tribes)<br />
  <strong>Torah Portion:&nbsp;</strong>Bamidbar/ Numbers 30:2-32:42<br />
<strong>Haftorah:&nbsp;</strong>Yermiyahu / Jeremiah 1:1-2:3</p>
<p>The word of the HaShem came to me: Before I created you in the womb, I selected you;  Before you were born, I consecrated you;  I appointed you a prophet concerning the nations. (Jeremiah 1:4-5)</p>
<p>This week we read Parashat Matot (Tribes).&nbsp;  This reading is usually paired with Masei (Journeys), but not this year.&nbsp; The Torah portion of Matot deals with the  importance of keeping our word before both God and man.&nbsp; We must be ready to keep our promises and do  what we say we will do.</p>
<p>The Haftarah portion in Yerimiyahu also confirms this principle.&nbsp; HaShem tells Yeremiyahu that he has been  selected and consecrated to be a prophet to the nations.&nbsp; This was role was bestowed on him even prior  to his birth.&nbsp; The same can be said of  each and every one of us.&nbsp; We all have a  calling on our lives from HaShem.&nbsp; This  calling has been given to us from before the day before we were born.</p>
<p>Now, how do we find our calling in life?&nbsp;  It may not come from a bolt of lightning or the booming voice of God  like in the movie The Ten Commandments.&nbsp;  Here are some suggestions on finding your calling in life.</p>
<p>Pray!&nbsp; Duh! That sounds simple  right?&nbsp; However, how often do we really  pray?&nbsp; How often do we cry out to HaShem  with our whole being earnestly seeking His face?&nbsp; We may find for example that we need to do  Teshuva (Repentance).&nbsp; There may be a sin  which is blocking us from reaching our full potential.&nbsp; This could be a sin against God, another  person, or even us. (Calling ourselves stupid or worthless is also a sin).</p>
<p>One should make time to read the Scriptures.&nbsp; The Torah is our instruction manual from  HaShem, so read it.&nbsp; As you read ask  HaShem to give you a passion for Torah and ask Him to give you a passion for  life.</p>
<p>Make your life simple and do not try to complicate things.&nbsp; For example, if you are married and have kids,  then ask HaShem to make you a better spouse or a better parent.&nbsp; Ask HaShem to make you a better worker,  etc.&nbsp; For all these things parent,  spouse, co-worker are all things that HaShem has called us to be. </p>
<p>Use the gifts and the talents that God has given you.&nbsp; If you can sing then sing.&nbsp; If you can write then write.&nbsp; Don&rsquo;t try and do things that do not come  naturally to you.&nbsp; For example, I will  never be a great painter because God just has not given me that ability.&nbsp; However, I write because that is how He has  blessed me.&nbsp; </p>
<p>If we are faithful with what God has already given us (spouse, kids, job),  then He will continue to bestow bigger and higher callings on our lives.</p>
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		<description><![CDATA[If a man makes a vow to HaShem or takes an oath imposing an obligation on himself, he shall not break his pledge; he must carry out all that has crossed his lips. [Numbers 30:3] This week we have a double portion Matot (Tribes) and Masei (Journeys). I will focus this week on Matot. The first Aliyah has Moses instructing Israel concerning vows. It is important to remind ourselves that our word is our bond. We must endeavour not to speak too quickly or make promises that we don&#8217;t intend to keep. In the Besorah HaTovah (Good News) we are also reminded of this concept. &#8220;Simply let your &#8216;Yes&#8217; be &#8216;Yes,&#8217; and your &#8216;No,&#8217; &#8216;No&#8217;; anything beyond this comes from the evil one.&#8221; [Mattiyahu 5:37]. Yacob also states &#8220;Above all, my brothers, do not swear&#8212;not by heaven or by earth or by anything else. Let your &#34;Yes&#34; be [...]]]></description>
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<p> If a man makes a vow to HaShem or takes an oath imposing an obligation on himself, he shall not break his pledge; he must carry out all that has crossed his lips. [Numbers 30:3]</p>
<p> This week we have a double portion Matot (Tribes) and Masei (Journeys).  I will focus this week on Matot.   The first Aliyah has Moses instructing Israel concerning vows.</p>
<p>It is important to remind ourselves that our word is our bond.  We must endeavour not to speak too quickly or make promises that we don&rsquo;t intend to keep.</p>
<p>In the Besorah HaTovah (Good News) we are also reminded of this concept. </p>
<p>&ldquo;Simply let your &#8216;Yes&#8217; be &#8216;Yes,&#8217; and your &#8216;No,&#8217; &#8216;No&#8217;; anything beyond this comes from the evil one.&rdquo; [Mattiyahu 5:37]. </p>
<p>Yacob also states &ldquo;Above all, my brothers, do not swear&mdash;not by heaven or by earth or by anything else. Let your &quot;Yes&quot; be yes, and your &quot;No,&quot; no, or you will be condemned.&rdquo; [Yacob / James 5:12]</p>
<p>We have a responsibility as believers to say what we mean and mean what we say.</p>
<p>How often do we tell people &ldquo;we should get together&rdquo; or &ldquo;I will call you&rdquo;, but we never do or we have no intention of doing these things?  We may feel that these are simply social norms or nice things that we say just in conversation or to get people off our backs.</p>
<p>I am just as guilty so I speak from experience, but I have started to feel that if I really can&rsquo;t call or can&rsquo;t get together then I should not make the promise of that expectation.<br />
If we find ourselves in such a situation, it may be better to start with the phrase &ldquo;I can&rsquo;t promise that I will remember to call, but I will try.</p>
<p>Sometimes, I have found that you may have to go back and apologise for not making a deadline.  But in these circumstances I try to do it ahead of time.  For example if I say I will type a report in a week and I need extra time.  I will go to that person and ask for an extension before the week is done and explain why I cannot make the deadline.</p>
<p>In reviewing the Parasha it is interesting to note that vows made by daughters and wives are seen differently if cancelled by the father or husband when he becomes aware of the vow.</p>
<p>&ldquo;If a woman makes a vow to the Lord or assumes an obligation while still in her father&#8217;s household by reason of her youth, 5 and her father learns of her vow or her self-imposed obligation and offers no objection, all her vows shall stand and every self-imposed obligation shall stand. 6 But if her father restrains her on the day he finds out, none of her vows or self-imposed obligations shall stand; and the Lord will forgive her, since her father restrained her.<br />
  7 If she should marry while her vow or the commitment to which she bound herself is still in force, 8 and her husband learns of it and offers no objection on the day he finds out, her vows shall stand and her self-imposed obligations shall stand. 9 But if her husband restrains her on the day that he learns of it, he thereby annuls her vow which was in force or the commitment to which she bound herself; and the Lord will forgive her. [Bamidbar 30: 4-10]</p>
<p> I just wanted to clarify her that HaShem is not being sexist here again women by allowing the male to overrule her vow.  This is simply a question of HaShem&rsquo;s order in society. </p>
<p> For example if my daughter were to say that she will go somewhere or promise to do something, she may have made that vow without thinking of the consequences of her actions.  When I hear of it I may forbid her to go because it is not safe. Ultimately, as a father and Husband I have to bear the ultimate responsibility of my household.</p>
<p> So what do you think?  How do you become a Man or Woman of your word?</p>
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		<description><![CDATA[Bamidbar / Numeros 31:2 &#8220;Toma venganza completa sobre los midianitas por los hijos de Israel; despu&#233;s ser&#225;s reunido a tu pueblo.&#8221; &#8211; La venganza fue contra Midi&#225;n, no contra Moav. &#191;Por qu&#233;? Rash&#237; dice que es porque los moabitas actuaron por temor al estar justamente al lado de los hijos de Israel, no como los midianitas que &#8220;metieron la nariz&#8221; donde no deb&#237;an. La venganza vino por causa del ataque que Midi&#225;n hab&#237;a hecho contra las familias israelitas. Las hijas de Midi&#225;n hab&#237;an intentado destruir la moral familiar de Israel, para que se engendraran hijos de madres paganas, lo cual inclu&#237;a el culto a sus dioses. De esa manera, la siguiente generaci&#243;n ser&#237;a una perversi&#243;n, como en el tiempo de Ezr&#225;, cuando los hombres jud&#237;os se casaron con las mujeres de las otras naciones y tuvieron hijos que hablaban una lengua doble, por la influencia de la cultura [...]]]></description>
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<p>Bamidbar / Numeros 31:2 &ldquo;Toma venganza completa sobre los   midianitas por los hijos de Israel; despu&eacute;s ser&aacute;s reunido a tu pueblo.&rdquo; &ndash;   La venganza fue contra Midi&aacute;n, no contra Moav. &iquest;Por qu&eacute;? Rash&iacute; dice que   es porque los moabitas actuaron por temor al estar justamente al lado   de los hijos de Israel, no como los midianitas que &ldquo;metieron la nariz&rdquo;   donde no deb&iacute;an.</p>
<p>La venganza vino por causa del ataque que Midi&aacute;n hab&iacute;a hecho contra   las familias israelitas. Las hijas de Midi&aacute;n hab&iacute;an intentado destruir   la moral familiar de Israel, para que se engendraran hijos de madres   paganas, lo cual inclu&iacute;a el culto a sus dioses. De esa manera, la   siguiente generaci&oacute;n ser&iacute;a una perversi&oacute;n, como en el tiempo de Ezr&aacute;,   cuando los hombres jud&iacute;os se casaron con las mujeres de las otras   naciones y tuvieron hijos que hablaban una lengua doble, por la   influencia de la cultura extranjera. La siguiente generaci&oacute;n de jud&iacute;os,   correr&iacute;a el riesgo de perder toda la fidelidad al pacto, y tuvieron que   despedir esas mujeres y esos ni&ntilde;os, cf. Esdras 9-10; Nehem&iacute;as 13:23ss.   El caso de la esposa midianita de Mosh&eacute;, Tsipor&aacute;, fue diferente, porque   ella hab&iacute;a hecho la conversi&oacute;n. Estas mujeres de Midi&aacute;n y de Moav no   ten&iacute;an ning&uacute;n inter&eacute;s en asumir la fe de Israel, como Tsipor&aacute;, sino de   destruirla por medio del culto a los dioses paganos. Por eso vino la   venganza.</p>
<p>Bamidbar / Numeros 31:3 &ldquo;Y habl&oacute; Mosh&eacute; al pueblo, diciendo:   Armad a algunos hombres de entre vosotros para la guerra, a fin de que   suban contra Midi&aacute;n para ejecutar la venganza de HaShem en Midi&aacute;n.&rdquo; &ndash;   &iquest;De qui&eacute;n es la venganza? En Deuteronomio 32:35a est&aacute; escrito: &ldquo;M&iacute;a es   la venganza y la retribuci&oacute;n&rdquo;. As&iacute; que el hombre no tiene el derecho de   vengarse a s&iacute; mismo. Si la venganza es s&oacute;lo de HaShem, &iquest;c&oacute;mo puede   Israel vengarse de Midi&aacute;n? HaShem delega a Israel la autoridad para   ejecutar su venganza. Israel no tiene el derecho de hacerlo por s&iacute;   mismo, sino s&oacute;lo por una orden divina, como est&aacute; escrito: &ldquo;Toma   venganza&rdquo;.</p>
<p>El mandamiento n&uacute;mero 241 que proh&iacute;be   vengarse, est&aacute; escrito en Lev&iacute;tico 19:18a: &ldquo;No te vengar&aacute;s&rdquo;</p>
<p>En Romanos 12:17-21 est&aacute; escrito: &ldquo;Nunca pagu&eacute;is a nadie mal por mal.   Respetad lo bueno delante de todos los hombres. Si es posible, en cuanto   de vosotros dependa, estad en paz con todos los hombres. Amados, nunca   os vengu&eacute;is vosotros mismos, sino dad lugar a la ira [de Eloah], porque   escrito est&aacute;: m&iacute;a es la venganza, Yo pagar&eacute;, dice el Se&ntilde;or. Pero si tu   enemigo tiene hambre, dale de comer; y si tiene sed, dale de beber,   porque haciendo esto, carbones encendidos amontonar&aacute;s sobre su cabeza.   No seas vencido por el mal, sino vence con el bien el mal.&rdquo;</p>
<p>El hombre no tiene el derecho de   vengarse por s&iacute; mismo. Tienes el derecho de defenderte pero no de   vengarte. S&oacute;lo las autoridades, que son puestas por el Eterno, tienen el   derecho de ejecutar Su venganza. Si has sido tratado con injusticia,   deja lugar para que HaShem juzgue, directamente o a trav&eacute;s de las   autoridades que &eacute;l ha puesto.</p>
<p> En Romanos 13:1-6 est&aacute; escrito:  &ldquo;Som&eacute;tase   toda persona a las autoridades que gobiernan; porque no hay autoridad   sino de Eloah, y las que existen, por Eloah son constituidas. Por   consiguiente, el que resiste a la autoridad, a lo ordenado por Eloah se   ha opuesto; y los que se han opuesto, sobre s&iacute; recibir&aacute;n condenaci&oacute;n.   Porque los gobernantes no son motivo de temor para los de buena   conducta, sino para el que hace el mal. &iquest;Deseas, pues, no temer a la   autoridad? Haz lo bueno y tendr&aacute;s elogios de ella, pues es para ti un   ministro de Eloah para bien. Pero si haces lo malo, teme; porque no en   vano lleva la espada, pues ministro es de Eloah, un vengador que castiga   al que practica lo malo. Por tanto, es necesario someterse, no s&oacute;lo por   raz&oacute;n del castigo, sino tambi&eacute;n por causa de la conciencia. Pues por   esto tambi&eacute;n pag&aacute;is impuestos, porque los gobernantes son servidores de   Eloah, dedicados precisamente a esto.&rdquo;</p>
<p>HaShem puso la autoridad como &ldquo;un   vengador que castiga al que practica lo malo.&rdquo; Pero si la autoridad no   lo hace, no est&aacute; cumpliendo con su funci&oacute;n.</p>
<p>Esto es v&aacute;lido tambi&eacute;n entre los padres y   sus hijos. Los hijos no tienen el derecho de vengarse entre ellos, pero   los padres tienen la obligaci&oacute;n de ejecutar la venganza sobre aquel de   sus hijos que ha cometido una falta contra su hermano, en el caso de que   no haya pedido perd&oacute;n y arreglado todo. Si los padres dejan que sus   hijos se da&ntilde;en sin ejecutar la justicia, los hijos no aprender&aacute;n el   principio de que HaShem es un vengador.</p>
<p>Muchas pel&iacute;culas modernas ense&ntilde;an al   p&uacute;blico a apoyar al que ha sido tratado injustamente y que busca   venganza contra el que le hizo da&ntilde;o. Esto no es sano. Esas pel&iacute;culas   ense&ntilde;an al pueblo a no seguir el mandamiento n&uacute;mero 241 que dice que no   est&aacute; permitido vengarse. Ese mandamiento es para todos los hombres, no   s&oacute;lo para los jud&iacute;os.</p>
<p>En Proverbios 20:22 est&aacute; escrito: &ldquo;No   digas: Yo pagar&eacute; mal por mal; espera en HaShem, y &Eacute;l te salvar&aacute;.&rdquo;</p>
<p>En Proverbios 24:29 est&aacute; escrito: &ldquo;No   digas: Como &eacute;l me ha hecho, as&iacute; le har&eacute;; pagar&eacute; al hombre seg&uacute;n su   obra.&rdquo;</p>
<p>En el Salmo 94:1-3 est&aacute; escrito:&ldquo;Oh   HaShem, Eloah de las venganzas, oh Eloah de las venganzas, &iexcl;resplandece!   Lev&aacute;ntate, Juez de la tierra; da su merecido a los soberbios. &iquest;Hasta   cu&aacute;ndo los imp&iacute;os, HaShem, hasta cu&aacute;ndo los imp&iacute;os se regocijar&aacute;n?&rdquo;</p>
<p>Este Salmo nos ense&ntilde;a a pedir a HaShem   que ejecute la venganza en la tierra, como tambi&eacute;n est&aacute; escrito en   Revelaci&oacute;n 6:9-10:&ldquo;Cuando abri&oacute; el quinto sello, vi debajo del altar   las almas de los que hab&iacute;an sido muertos a causa de la palabra de Eloah   y del testimonio que hab&iacute;an mantenido; y clamaban a gran voz, diciendo:   &iquest;Hasta cu&aacute;ndo, oh Se&ntilde;or santo y verdadero, esperar&aacute;s para juzgar y   vengar nuestra sangre de los que moran en la tierra?&rdquo;</p>
<p>En 1 Tesalonicenses 4:6 est&aacute; escrito   acerca del adulterio:&ldquo;que nadie peque y defraude a su hermano en   este asunto, porque el Se&ntilde;or es un vengador en todas estas cosas, como   tambi&eacute;n antes os lo dijimos y advertimos solemnemente.&rdquo;</p>
<p>En Hebreos 10:30-31 est&aacute; escrito:&ldquo;Pues   conocemos al que dijo: mia es la venganza, Yo pagar&eacute;. Y otra vez: el   Se&ntilde;or juzgar&aacute; a su pueblo. &iexcl;Horrenda cosa es caer en las manos del Eloah   vivo!&rdquo;</p>
<p>Israel recibi&oacute; la delegaci&oacute;n de la   autoridad de HaShem para ejecutar su venganza contra Midi&aacute;n, y matar a   todos. </p>
<p> Yesh&uacute;a HaMash&iacute;aj ha recibido de Eloah la autoridad sobre todos   los hombres de la tierra, como est&aacute; escrito en Mateo 28:18:&ldquo;Y   acerc&aacute;ndose Yesh&uacute;a, les habl&oacute;, diciendo: Toda autoridad me ha sido dada   en el cielo y en la tierra.&rdquo;</p>
<p> Por esto &eacute;l tiene el derecho y la   responsabilidad de ejecutar la venganza de su Padre sobre todos los   hombres que no le obedecen, como est&aacute; escrito en Revelaci&oacute;n 19:11-16: &ldquo;Y vi el cielo abierto, y he aqu&iacute;, un   caballo blanco; el que lo montaba se llama Fiel y Verdadero, y con   justicia juzga y hace la guerra. Sus ojos son una llama de fuego, y   sobre su cabeza hay muchas diademas, y tiene un Nombre escrito que nadie   conoce sino &eacute;l. Y est&aacute; vestido de un manto empapado en sangre, y su   nombre es: El Verbo de Eloah. Y los ej&eacute;rcitos que est&aacute;n en los cielos,   vestidos de lino fino, blanco y limpio, le segu&iacute;an sobre caballos   blancos. De su boca sale una espada afilada para herir con ella a las   naciones, y las regir&aacute; con vara de hierro; y &eacute;l pisa el lagar del vino   del furor de la ira de Eloah Todopoderoso. Y en su manto y en su muslo   tiene un Nombre escrito: Rey de reyes y Se&ntilde;or de se&ntilde;ores.&rdquo;</p>
<p>En 2 Tesalonicenses 1:6-10 est&aacute; escrito: &ldquo;Porque   despu&eacute;s de todo, es justo delante de Eloah retribuir con aflicci&oacute;n a   los que os afligen, y daros alivio a vosotros que sois afligidos, y   tambi&eacute;n a nosotros, cuando maran Yesh&uacute;a sea revelado desde el cielo   con sus poderosos &aacute;ngeles en llama de fuego, dando retribuci&oacute;n a los que   no conocen a Eloah, y a los que no obedecen las buenas nuevas de maran Yesh&uacute;a. Estos sufrir&aacute;n el castigo de eterna destrucci&oacute;n,   excluidos de la presencia del Se&ntilde;or y de la gloria de su poder, cuando   &eacute;l venga para ser glorificado en sus santos en aquel d&iacute;a y para ser   admirado entre todos los que han cre&iacute;do; porque nuestro testimonio ha   sido cre&iacute;do por vosotros.&rdquo;</p>
<p>Todo lo que existe es bueno, pues HaShem   que es Bueno lo ha creado, y todo por el existe, lo &uacute;nico que el hombre   no ha sabido identificar es la proporci&oacute;n exacta en que todo es bueno y   equilibrado. Por ejemplo, el Sol es bueno pues en conjunci&oacute;n con la   clorofila de las plantas produce el ox&iacute;geno que nos hace falta para   respirar, m&aacute;s exponer la piel la al sol por amplios per&iacute;odos puede   causar da&ntilde;os al ser humano. Esta proporci&oacute;n exacta es la que HaShem nos   ense&ntilde;a a traves de su Torah, y la cual el Mashiaj nos ense&ntilde;a a saber   identificar. La venganza no es mala, pero la proporci&oacute;n exacta de ella   es tan exacta que cualquier desliz conlleva a la transgresi&oacute;n de la   mitzv&aacute; &quot;no te vengar&aacute;s&quot;, solamente HaShem es due&ntilde;o de esa medida, por   ello debemos simplemente confiar en que HaShem sabe en que momento   aplicar&aacute; la medida justa y exacta de ella.</p>
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